Becky I would ignore that text and open another bottle of wine. Maybe pack up his stuff in garbage bags and store it somewhere so you won't have to look at it- maybe the basement or somewhere out of sight.
You have come a long way in such a short amount of time.
He just texted me to ask if I am delaying the court date in hopes I will come back to him. He said he wants to marry OW as she has a terminal illness. Says he has been falling out of love with me for a while. He didn't mean to. He hopes I can forgive him some day.
I told him I had nothing to do with the court date and he needs to work with his attorney.
Unbelievable. Marriage over.
Me53 H48 M 13 No children together BDMay '15 PA June '15 H moves out,files 8/15 wants "quick divorce" but does nothing Me sending proposal 12/15, court dates upcoming
I am so angry right now. When he was "falling out of love" with me the last three years I have stood by him through the death of both parents, (his dad was a hoarder and that was a mess to deal with) his son's attempted suicide, 7 surgeries, including prostate cancer and a lot more. How dare he.
He accuses me of dragging my feet when he and his attorney have done nothing but file. He's been waiting for me. He could have submitted a settlement proposal 6 weeks ago. He could have told me he wanted out months ago.
I have suspected she has lupus but that his not necessarily a terminal illness.
Me53 H48 M 13 No children together BDMay '15 PA June '15 H moves out,files 8/15 wants "quick divorce" but does nothing Me sending proposal 12/15, court dates upcoming
I get the anger, truly. These beings who have taken over our spouse's bodies are like impatient three year olds. Nothing you've ever done is remembered, certainly not appreciated. It IS a bitter pill to swallow.
The best thing you can do for YOU, not him, is to forgive him. View him as an imbecile who knows not what he does, and let it go.It is, without question, the best gift you can ever give yourself. These are HIS issues. Don't let bitterness in your heart. The cost is too high.
I'm so glad you get my sense of humor! Some people don't. I can't help it. Terminal illness? If only the rest of us were so lucky! LOL
I get the anger, truly. These beings who have taken over our spouse's bodies are like impatient three year olds. Nothing you've ever done is remembered, certainly not appreciated. It IS a bitter pill to swallow.
Judy - that is such an excellent way to describe how my WAW ended up. So many times I would ask her "what happened to you? have you hit your head? your evil step-sister? possessed?? whats going on?" I wasted so much time after BD thinking that maybe she was sick or had a mental problem or would snap out of it. I was trying to be understanding and patient with her but all I ended up doing was digging myself further into the LBS syndrome and having her and me lose a lot of respect for myself.
M: 48 W: 45 Married: 16 years D1-14, D2-11, D3-9 BD: May 29 She moved out 2 weeks later with kids Awaiting mediation
Duke - in a recent argument with my husband, I watched in disbelief as my formerly level-headed spouse simultaneously stomped his feet and waved him arms about while yelling at me at the top of his lungs.
That was when I decided he's been taken over by an immature three-year old alien. Now I speak in simple terms so he can keep up...seems to be helping...lol
I am really praying against bitterness this morning and praying that God would move me toward forgiveness. Just like our entire marriage, once again it's some one else's fault he not getting what he wants. And like always I will fix it by moving the D along as fast as possible.
Me53 H48 M 13 No children together BDMay '15 PA June '15 H moves out,files 8/15 wants "quick divorce" but does nothing Me sending proposal 12/15, court dates upcoming
