hold on!! - 12

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My initial reaction is that her not retaining a L and not taking any settlement on the house or anything else is going to be a problem down the road. She may have cause to go back to court later if the settlement seems unfair and she wasn't represented. Talk to your L about this. And, legalities aside, she may wake up with a giant case of resentment later, which would cause a problem in your ongoing co-parenting.

I'm not at all suggesting you are being unfair, I'm just throwing out cautions. Better to be careful up front than have to go back and re-do it later.

I do agree with this Sunny, I feel like all of this is going to be a problem. She mentioned leaving the equity in the house to use for the kids education. But this leaves us both tied to this house I think. I don't know if her intention is to try to keep her name on the house too. It sounds so messy to me. She says that she doesn't want to waste money on a L when there is no fight between us.

She may think we are going to remain buddies and partners after all of this. I feel that I have made it pretty clear that I am only talking about the kids and some financial things with her. (though these conversations are friendlier than they have been in a very long time).

I do need to get with my L early this week and tell him all of this. I don't think W has made contact with him as - which I think she will have to if she is representing herself.

Again - not a lot of this is going how I envisioned it. Not horribly, but not by the book.

Thanks Sunny