U, thanks for the update. My initial reaction is that her not retaining a L and not taking any settlement on the house or anything else is going to be a problem down the road. She may have cause to go back to court later if the settlement seems unfair and she wasn't represented. Talk to your L about this. And, legalities aside, she may wake up with a giant case of resentment later, which would cause a problem in your ongoing co-parenting.
I'm not at all suggesting you are being unfair, I'm just throwing out cautions. Better to be careful up front than have to go back and re-do it later.
