Hello All I'm new to board so bare with me. W & I both recently turned 50. Married for 27 years Together for 31. 4 Kids. only 14 F at home. Recently gathered evidence and confronted wife proving she had been having 8 week multiple meeting affair with OM who is married and Father of 6. She Joined gym 8 months ago, goes everyday now in the best shape of her life. 10weeks ago posts personal and ad on CL for validation because what I say doesn't matter. We are trying to work things out, she says its over, trust is gone.
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Get out and Get a Life (GAL). DETACH.
Believe none of what he or she says and half of what he/she does.
Have NO EXPECTATIONS.
Take care of yourself, breathe, eat, sleep, exercise.
Take the parts of this advice that you need and don't worry if I have repeated something that you have already done.
Here are a few links to threads that will help you immensely:
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She Joined gym 8 months ago, goes everyday now in the best shape of her life. 10weeks ago posts personal and ad on CL for validation because what I say doesn't matter. We are trying to work things out, she says its over, trust is gone.
I'm sorry to hear this, I know the struggle I'm 46, she's in the best shape ever and my W needed validation from someone other than me.
I'm trying to work it out as well, it's tough it feels like drowning at times or even if I'm in the middle of a crowd I feel alone. it's a process and I hope you find that love and peace that we all deserve! All the best, and do the best you can for YOU! Take care of yourself 1st and make YOU the priority because if it works out or not YOU need to be right!
