Heather, Your former company was checking to see if you were doing the work or not. Many companies are doing "the spying" these days to ensure that their employees are working, what sites they are visiting, etc. I particularly didn't like this big brother approach of checking on employees, but w/the way the world is today, it's important to know what employees are doing, if they are terrorist, sex perverts, etc. If you only used your computer at work for work, then you had nothing to worry about. Sometimes employers will give employees a little bit of leeway when doing searches, etc., but the bottom line w/employers is that they want their employees working during the work hours. So, what happened to you was not surprising.
As for Matt, he doesn't like change and he's mad because you are moving again. He's mad that you are doing things that he may have wanted to do sometime in his life and he's not done it. He sees you moving, advancing and yes, finding places to live, work and have fun. In his mind, you've escaped from the past and have moved on. They don't like that. They want to be the ones that do everything. So, just let him sulk and he'll get over it in time and guess what, he just may say he wants to move there too.
So, the house hunting begins and, of course, time to down size more and get ready to move once again. It's on to a new adventure and hopefully this time, you will find a place to call home for many years to come.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
