The first step is always the hardest!

[Zues126]

4, no need to pretend you don't have these thoughts and feelings, and there is no better place to get them out than this board- but his actions mean absolutely nothing.

Does he have feelings for you? Does he miss having you around? Is he scared of losing you forever? Probably. But the fact that most newbies don't understand is him having feelings and him recommitting to you are two ENTIRELY separate things.

Suppose you had a conflict- two events scheduled for the same night. Maybe a girls night out, and a work party. Maybe you want to attend the work party. Would you miss being with your girlfriends? Would you be sad that you aren't hanging with them? Maybe. Would you check in? Maybe. Does this mean you're not going to your work party? Not at all. See- feelings and actions are DIFFERENT. It doesn't matter that he has feelings. What matters is his behavior. Besides, feelings can be misunderstood. Behavior is clear cut.

His behavior is that he is with another woman emotionally and physically. His behavior shows that when you leave he runs to her, not to you. Trying to find confliction expressed on his face as he treats you like dirt is beneath you. His behavior says enough. I know, believe only half of what they do...until the other half keeps you attached.

I can't be disappointed with you, though, because those are just your feelings, and your BEHAVIOR is that you walked the heck away and are getting the help you need for a better life.