Zeus I am glad I got out of the environment also. I need to step away and do some real soul searching. I do hope it wakes him up but also agree with you very unlikely. But who knows right? I will be a new person and a healthy one at that.
There are some things that are confusing me about the situation and I know it focuses on him but understanding behavior (mine and his) is important to me. I enjoy learning about behavior so I hope I can get some input here.
Sunday when I left he told me he hated me would never support me will never come back doesnt want to be my friend ect. Two hours later calls to ask when his kids activities are. Monday D8 calls him talks to him he asks to talk to me to see if D8 was going to grandmas. Tuesday it was did I transfer money, send his thank-yous, and pay property taxes, Wednessday he did not talk to me but OW was at the house so of course he ignored me. Thursday it was me trying to talk to him and him just answering in short answers. I asked him to watch D8 so I could go to the meeting got back early she was still eating I asked her to finish up so we could get going. He told me to calm down and sit down do not rush her. I said I am not I am hungry and just want to get home to make myself dinner. He told me to go get some food sit down and eat. Ok so I did. Then she had to make something. He kind of goofed off with me a little bit but didn't say much. By goof off I meant poking fun with me. then it was order me a school picture of D8. Today I informed him I was picking up d7 and her mom knew. he asked why. I said I wanted to take her out for my birthday. He said ok make sure you are there early she is supposed to ride the bus please. Happy birthday have fun with the girls. I told him i let the school know and daycare. He said ok sounds good have fun!Then a few hours later I get a text asking what size clothes all three girls wear. Is he just trying to keep contact with me or am I over thinking it and these are things anyone would normally do? I mean scheduling things he could check the calendar I keep it updated and left him instructions to use it. D8 going to his moms he could have asked her..clothing sizes um look in the closet and go a size bigger? I guess I am not sure what to think. Is this normal? Guilty feelings? maybe re thinking his choices?
No worries even if he were to ask me to come back today the answer would be no. I have a lot of work I want to do first. And yes I could tell him that. We need to be able to be friends first! Again I just like to understand behavior! I took the hard step and left I may as well use the time to work on me and if it works out it does if not I now know I will be OK!
Back to me! For my birthday my mom sent me a dozen roses, and my D8's dad took me D8 and D7 out to eat. They both went with their parents so now I can enjoy a relaxing night to myself and Tomorrow I may go to the races! Racing season is winding down here to better get as much in as I can. It will also be the first time in a very very long time I have done anything by myself. Usually I take a kid of H or friend. But I have decided i am not even going to mention to H I am going and I am just going to go on my own watch and enjoy!
