Did she b'tch, bully, disrespect, give the doormat treatment, boss you around, talk down to you about, or any of the other things I named? If not, then why noise about it?
Besides, what kind of "noise" would you make?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
One of the most important ways to show you are wearing the pants is to stand up to her whenever she acts bossy, b'tchy, bullying, disrespectful, making you the butt of jokes, snide remarks, rude, doormat treatment, etc. She is going on a running trip next week (it's been planned for ages) so away for one night, should I make any noises about it?
It's when she goes on her trip that's when I wonder if any noise should be made?
It's when she goes on her trip that's when I wonder if any noise should be made?
I get the fact she's going on the trip. I'm not understanding what you mean by making noise. Can you be more specific or give an example of what you would do?
Do you have a problem with her going on this trip? Obviously, she's been training for it and you knew she was planing to go, so if there was a problem........have you discussed it with her?
Don't get the wrong idea of what I've said in my last couple of posts. I am not trying to turn you into a tyrant.
It would be most helpful if you could give us more information.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
If they have done this for years, and this has been planned for a long time, then you choosing this particular time to start questioning about the male in the group would cause you to look insecure, instead of strong.
Is this man new to the group? Has she never mentioned the sleeping arrangements? Have you ever wondered about it in the past?
You may be feeling the insecurity due to her recent A. Do you know the man involved in the A?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
[quote=sandi2]If they have done this for years, and this has been planned for a long time, then you choosing this particular time to start questioning about the male in the group would cause you to look insecure, instead of strong.
Is this man new to the group? Has she never mentioned the sleeping arrangements? Have you ever wondered about it in the past?
You may be feeling the insecurity due to her recent A. Do you know the man involved in the A?
I thought you'd say that I never wondered as it would have never occurred to me that she wouldn't be anything else but faithful. He is not new to the group and I know him...
What are your plans for the weekend while she is away with her running group? Focus on yourself and your kids and do something fun.
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What are your plans for the weekend while she is away with her running group? Focus on yourself and your kids and do something fun.
Knowing what to do and what not to do at this point is crucial. Feel free to give me a call at 303-444-7004 to discuss how we can best help you determine what to do next.
Cristy Resource Coordinator The Divorce Busting Center 303-444-7004
Luckily it's not a weekend it's Tuesday next week so work will take up most of my time but thought I'd catch up with a friend in the evening.
