Im sorry that you are here. Theres a lot in that post and it will take a while to really investigate and dissect.
But I will say two things right now:
1) I think you should contact a L. I dont believe that she has the right to prevent you from seeing your children without some kind of court order. Im pretty sure thats kidnapping.
2) You discuss a lot about how your wife asks you to do X and so you do X...and then she asks for Y and so you do Y...and then she asks for Z and so you do Z. I understand the philosophy - "if I do what she asks, then she will be happy". But it isnt really ABOUT the actual thing that she wants. She wants you to listen and figure out what she needs without her having to ask you for it. Its not terribly husbandly of you to do exactly as she asks over and over. She wants you to be your own person, while satisfying the things that she needs out of the relationship. She isnt interested in having another child follow her directions - she wants a PARTNER.
