Confused newbie

[dday]

I have made the sitch worse before I found this forum. I was the one that moved out, because I didn't want to displace my kids. I went into super husband mode. I tried to do more date nights, before she asked me for S. I am a fixer. I felt so insecure, worthless. Until this year, she was as good of a wife and mom as you would ever see. Now she is selfish, and isn't concerned that she is jeapordizing her kids college funds, the travel ball that SHE enjoys so much, and their quality of life is going drastically down. That is definately not the girl I married!