My best suggestion is ask HeavyD, she is fantastic at this stuff and cooperating with her wife on co parenting, it hasn't been easy for her to reach that point.
Vanilla, I would really like to read the "recent post by HeavyD" you refer to, but I think you linked it incorrectly. Is it possible for you to correct it, please? Thanks
Me43 W39 M 12y,T 15y S09,S07 Bomb Jun14 Sleeping separately Jan/Mar15 Share bed Mar/May15 Reconcile Jun15 Aug15 W sais D will happen D told to kids Sept15 W moved out with kids 01 October15