Answer to: "why didn't you hear it from ME?"

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The "overall" answer is that no, she has not felt like she has lost me and I am "moving on". How do you do that while still living under the same roof and parenting a child together?

I think the answer is you move on. Not in the sense of burning bridges, getting in a new R, or moving out necessarily. But literally letting go and moving forward with your own life.

She will know when you've let go. And she will know when you haven't. So this can't be a strategy. It has to be you accepting reality and deciding you're not going to live your life with your happiness contingent upon someone else that may not be ready to match your commitment.

This isn't something you can achieve overnight. It might take months or years. There is no easy button. That's why we encourage you to start now. The best time to plan a tree is 20 years ago. The second best time is now.