Personally I believe a man needs to stand by his M. If you can't remain committed to your M because of how you feel, how can you expect a woman to remain committed to you when her feelings challenge that commitment?
As for her 'loving' him, you do realize an A is an addiction, right? If your W had said she 'loves' heroin would you shrug, divorce her, and say 'you can have your drugs'? Or would you stand by her while she battles that addiction?
I'm not suggesting you take her back with no boundaries, or enable her behavior. What I'm suggesting is that you take control of your emotions and operate based on core beliefs. If you can't do that I agree this forum won't be of any help.
Me:38 XW:38 T:11 years M:8 years Kids: S14, D11, D7 BD/Move out day: 6/17/14, D final Dec 15
