Then she came to a counseling session with me for the first time. She stated her goal was to help my counselor help me move on.
Hi Flight, I ripped this quote of yours from another thread. I skimmed your thread briefly, so forgive me and let me know if I am off base. I have 2 observations:
1) "doing what works" is not equivalent to "doing what makes your W like you more or warm up to you". You are in the early stages where you are still doing things in order to elicit response from your W. You need to start doing things to feel better about yourself. Detach and GAL as much as possible. It's counter inutuitive, I know.
2) Re: the quote above: Your IC sessions are for you, and you alone. YOU set the agenda. I am not sure why you would let your W hijack the session and dictate the agenda. Why should your W have a goal vis-a-vis YOUR counseling? You need your OWN goals in counseling and they are, frankly, none of her business. I would seriously wonder whether your IC has been compromised by her viewpoint. You may need to consider changing counselors. If you want to duke things out in another venue, like MC, that would be different. However, she is likely not even receptive to MC right now.
P.S. I am under the same roof with WW for 2 years. I know what you are feeling. Sorry for all of this.
