Hi Judy, I know how a fight like that can throw your emotions onto a tailspin that feels impossible to recover from any time soon. Try not to replay it over and over again in your mind. Watch a movie, read a book or try and distract yourself for a bit until you can look at it from a more calm place.
When you are ready, you can use this and learn from it. It feels good in the heat of the moment to finally say what is on your mind, but the price on your sanity after the fight is not worth it. I repeat a manta when I get within 50 feet of my H. "I do not want to fight with you". I repeat it so much that as soon as the conversation moves in the slightest direction of a fight those are the only words that come out of my mouth. It seems to work, because when I say those words he either shuts up or changes the subject himself.
Me: 42 H: 45 M: 18 yrs T: 20 yrs D: 17 D: 15 S: 12 I kicked him out 8/21/15 I will DB until March 21st 2017, that is it!
