Painter I am doubting he will get a reality check. Mom always digs him out and he has already let OW come over so he stll does not have reality yet. I hope it hits him like a ton of bricks though. I hope even if it doesn't save our R it makes him grow up for the kids sake. Like I told him you never know with us we could never talk again or end up married or anywhere in between. Only time will tell. I do feel relieved to not have to hate going home. To be able to focus on me and not be angry all the time. Not to have to worry about all the things I was worrying about. I can just go do me for a while and spend more time with d8. Again of course my goal is reconsilitation but only if it is healthy and committed.