Help for LBH who has a WW (new thread)

[sandi2]

You made reference to your observation, are you referring to your own sitch?

We talked more. She said through her tears, "what I wouldn't have given to have heard you say that a year ago".

So you see what she said as a positive? She was crying b/c she felt you waited too late.

We went to an event with two of our kids and seemed to connect. She was angry with me about something, so I just validated her in a text and thanked her for some things recently and for giving me a new memory I would cherish. For two days she was extremeley nice to me. Also she DOES seem to notice all my changes and is curious about them and sometimes even angry "why didn't you do this when I asked you to??". She tells people that all my help around the house is something she notices

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If you feel this "works" for you, then I'm sure nobody is likely to talk you out of it. I'll just give my VP. If you have a WW, then you are seeing the crumbs she throws at you as positive results from your work. Yes, I believe most WW's notice their
LBH's changes, however, I guess I don't see what you see here.

Question for you, why are you texting her and writing letters? Have you done this throughout the separation?