WORDS CAN BE FATAL. Don't let anyone fool you. Harsh words, unkind words and mean words are shooting holes in your self-esteem every time you hear them. There are many adults walking around bleeding to death over what someone said to them when they were children. It goes like this: thought to emotions to feelings to words to thought to emotions, etc. Every domestic disturbance that ends fatally started out with WORDS . Don't play like that. Listen very well over the next days and then take time to decide. I don't know how you feel about God but I would tell God to clue you in on what working in his head. Remember people talk about what they feel and they talk about it from their POV. If all that is coming out is mean stuff watch out. Also, if you decide to stay the course, remember if he is feeling like he ain't contributing he will attack you to keep from feeling bad. Men libido are tyed up in their achievements and it is hard wired they couldn't change that if they tried. I beleive that we have to come into a M prepared to give our all even when it gets us nothing in return but abuse starts with words. By the way, do you remind him every day of his lack of "lettuce"? Are you "buy-sexual"? Not that it will excuse his part in this but are you starting this dance?