First Post, She just Left, Very unsure

[Shrike]

Thanks guys it is something I need to hear. I have a hard time gauging how tough I need to be on her, especially since she walked away for reasons other than an OM.

I keep thinking that if I am nice, supportive, loving, respectful, that she will see it and come back. But, while I may have failed at these things in one way or another when we where together, none of that involves putting myself and my daughter in a bad position by bending over backwards for her.

I need to get it through my head that she made her choice. Shes already gone. We're never going back to what we had. And as much as it hurts and however long it takes, the only way forward is to completely let go.

I keep going back to image of the LBS holding flowers and waiting for the WAS to come back, while the WAS is waving goodbye and driving off into the sunset.

I don't want to be the one waiting. ( Don't misunderstand, I have hope that one day me and her will see all the silly things we did to each other and have a good laugh, while we hold hands and walk down a beach somewhere. I am crazy in love with her. And that love may never go away. But I'm not willing to put my life on hold to wait for her to make up her mind.)


The tricky part for me is (I am I too early in the separation to be thinking these things!?):

A. I don't want to be ''friends'' I get nothing out of this. How and when do I break this to her in a way that is loving and respectful. I see bad reactions here. Or does it matter anymore? I will sort of answer myself and say, why should she care, shes leaving. But I see her not understanding why I want this. More of any opinions on this, as it is probably difficult to answer and completely up to me.

B: If I cut her off, (which I plan on doing) do I wait until the divorce. Because If I do it before hand can she use it against me in court?

Peace and love guys/gals Ill try to comment on some other posts. I Feel selfish staying on my own