Where do I go from here? pt. 2

[asitis]

It's understandable to want resolution. But, what's the harm in going about your business with the reality of now? You aren't a couple any more. You don't have to act like a couple. You effectively are no longer married right now. Unless there is some real financial or safety issue that requires pushing things ahead faster, what's the rush?

The D is just a court order recognizing what has already happened. Let go of the M for now. That M is over. Maybe a new one will be something that happens at some point before, or even after finalizing a D? Who knows. You don't. He doesn't. We sure as h*ll don't. So, deal with the one thing you know you can do something about: you and your life.

Hang in there, you've had a lot thrown at you, and you are handling it well (you probably don't feel this to be the case, but you are from an outside observer's perspective).