I was thinking that depression seems to be a pretty hefty part of the MLC. Would it be beneficial to develop some resources for folks to use, to get a better understanding of dealing with someone who is depressed?
My W was diagnosed with major depression when she was 22. I have dealt with it for most of my life. I have adapted a few things that have helped me.
In the beginning, I firmly believed that if I was positive enough, made her laugh enough, that I could help to pull her out of the depressive episodes. I have since learned that virtually nothing I do will help to pull her out of it. It often has nothing to do with me. I have found that the best thing to do for her is give her space to do her own thing. For her that was usually listening to music and writing or art.
I understand that Michelle has a chapter dedicated to depression in DR, it is one of the chapters I read frequently. Depression can be biological, psychological, or some combination of the two.
I really just wanted to get the ball rolling on this topic, perhaps I have missed it, but I don't think there are enough resources on depression. I have been spending a lot of my time looking into different resources online on the subject and I would love to hear what some of the MLC vets have to say on it.
M: 38 W: 37 T: 20 M: 19 Kids: Stepson?20, S19, S16, D12 BD: 02/19/2015 (She moved out) PA Confirmed: 02/22/2015 (She is now living with OM) Dazed and confused: 09/13/2015
late30's, In the general scheme of things, we are asked to keep to one thread until that thread reaches 100 postings and then begin a new one. Subject lines can be changed within your threads as your thread progresses. The reason that we are asked to keep to one thread is so that we can follow your progress, just as you do.
BTW, here's a link to a thread that I had back a long time ago called "In Tandem--MLC and Depression". We could have spinoff from that thread or included it in a new one on depression.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
late30's, In the general scheme of things, we are asked to keep to one thread until that thread reaches 100 postings and then begin a new one. Subject lines can be changed within your threads as your thread progresses. The reason that we are asked to keep to one thread is so that we can follow your progress, just as you do.
BTW, here's a link to a thread that I had back a long time ago called "In Tandem--MLC and Depression". We could have spinoff from that thread or included it in a new one on depression.
Sorry for creating multiple threads. This wasn't meant to be specific to my situation, I just thought it would be great to have input and resources from many people on the board to assist folks in dealing with spousal depression. It looks like I am a bit late and Job has already covered this topic.
M: 38 W: 37 T: 20 M: 19 Kids: Stepson?20, S19, S16, D12 BD: 02/19/2015 (She moved out) PA Confirmed: 02/22/2015 (She is now living with OM) Dazed and confused: 09/13/2015
