Your video suggestion is certainly motivational, I enjoyed it. After watching yours I decided to put one of my current favorites up. It helps me when I get "stuck".
Mutatio I am going to check yours out. I am just trying to keep the positive energy going. I know that every morning I have to motivate myself a bit.
Today as always wake up missing my wife, wishing we were a family and that she was the woman who was always there trying to support me and motivate me to be who she always saw in me. Continuing to work on myself, so that if the Lord ever gives us that opportunity again I can have the marriage we both deserve.
Today's PMA
Quote of the day:
It's important in life to conclude things properly. Only then can you let go. Otherwise you are left with words you should have said but never did, and your heart is heavy with remorse.” ― Yann Martel, Life of Pi
I agree, we have to come to terms with the reality of our situations. Only we can decide when enough is enough. I am doing much better because I took it upon myself to prioritize my health over whether or not I should leave or her. I am keeping my distance to at least be able to gather myself, process what is happening, and decide how to best approach this.
I will always have love for my wife, I still love her as my wife; but I have come to accept that we are not together and that she is done. I will love her from a distance and continue to support her without giving her too much of myself, at least until I am ready to move on.
Keep your head up brother, the decision you made is not an easy one, you love your wife, and like I mentioned before God may have plans for the both of you in which you end up together, but until then continue to grow as a better man, give her love and compassion within your own boundaries and move forward/on accordingly.
God Bless, always praying for the best for you.
M: 34 W: 33 S: 7 S: 14 months BD: 6/2015 Separation: 6/2015 Back and Forth between Home and Moms
I agree, we have to come to terms with the reality of our situations. Only we can decide when enough is enough. I am doing much better because I took it upon myself to prioritize my health over whether or not I should leave or her. I am keeping my distance to at least be able to gather myself, process what is happening, and decide how to best approach this.
I will always have love for my wife, I still love her as my wife; but I have come to accept that we are not together and that she is done. I will love her from a distance and continue to support her without giving her too much of myself, at least until I am ready to move on.
Keep your head up brother, the decision you made is not an easy one, you love your wife, and like I mentioned before God may have plans for the both of you in which you end up together, but until then continue to grow as a better man, give her love and compassion within your own boundaries and move forward/on accordingly.
God Bless, always praying for the best for you.
Thank you my brother!
I will continue to keep you in my prayers as well.
I am really happy to see you grow so much within a short amount of time under these circumstances, we don't know how strong we are until we come face to face tough situations.
Thank you ILYNOT, I am following your journey close, and know that you will come out an even better person than you already are. Read my quote for today, as it is what we are all going through....
Good morning Family,
Today as with everyday I woke up missing my wife, my family, and my home (our togetherness, our experiences, our love). Due to my MIL's unfortunate health, I make sure to call my wife every morning to make sure how she is doing. I sometimes can't help it wonder if the reason she doesn't call me to talk to me about what she is feeling or dealing with is because she has found herself another confidant. I hope not, and of course I get the urge to ask, but I fight the urge as it would be unfair and it is completely baseless at the moment. Yet, the thought hurts, and the reality that she is speaking to other people everyday, sometimes all day, but doesn't even call me except for maybe once in a day, hurts. Where does it all go, 10 years, closeness, spending everyday together, where does it all go? This I ask myself, but of course, is a cheese less tunnel, so I focus on the only thing I can focus on....myself.
Here is some of my PMA for today:
Quote of the Day:
“And once the storm is over, you won’t remember how you made it through, how you managed to survive. You won’t even be sure, whether the storm is really over. But one thing is certain. When you come out of the storm, you won’t be the same person who walked in. That’s what this storm’s all about.” Haruki Murakami
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Working through it all, everyday it gets easier but it still hurts, I still don't feel whole, but what else is there. I won't bow down to this, I will overcome this, God has a bigger plan for me. I will support my wife's choice, because this is her journey but not at the cost of my life and my childrens. Love, love from a distance, have compassion, be understanding, grow from this.
Much love, and God Bless.
M: 34 W: 33 S: 7 S: 14 months BD: 6/2015 Separation: 6/2015 Back and Forth between Home and Moms
I recently found out my W was talking to other Males and Females and she didn't deny it, she said they're just "friends", wow.
I knew it was coming.
We have talked every day for the past 14 years then, little contact, then ZERO contact. I was completely replaced..
It seems almost overnight to me, but what can I do about it? NOTHING, I cant control her, I can only control ME
I read the serenity prayer daily; God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, (her) The courage to change the things I can, (me) And the wisdom to know the difference.
Just keep making your life positive, she will notice your behavior and changes.
Thank you brother, those words of encouragement mean a lot! You keep improving, you keep working on your PMA and your next better version. I am rooting for you. We won't let this bring us down. Keep your chin up and smile through it.
M: 34 W: 33 S: 7 S: 14 months BD: 6/2015 Separation: 6/2015 Back and Forth between Home and Moms
Another day forward, woke up not different than any other day, missing my wife and family, missing my home and what we had (at least the good parts). It gets easier everyday, but it is always hard to wake up and not see them and laugh with them, hold them, and tell them that I love them.
Spoke to W yesterday, she asked how I was I told her much better everyday is getting easier. She goes on to tell me that eventually I will come to realize that this is for the best, that our R was plagued with lots of issues and there were many red flags. I don't disagree, I validate, but it hurts to hear how final her words are. I remind myself this is where she is at the moment and I can't argue her feelings. I have faith that God has something bigger for me and her. I don't know if that means we'll R but we'll be somewhere better in the future. For now, I am giving her the space and time she asks for, being supportive from a distance but also not trying to rescuer her. I have hope that things can turnaround and her and I can have a new M, but again only time and our Lord will determine that. I will continue to focus on myself, focus on being a better person and work on my detachment, compassion, love, and on my children.
Today's PMA
Quote of the day:
“When we love, we always strive to become better than we are. When we strive to become better than we are, everything around us becomes better too.” Paulo Coelho, The Alchemist
