Detach, let go, stop trying to bring her closer.

She is manipulating you and you let her.
That is not the marriage that you want.

I agree with all of what Sandi said.
Until your wife is all in on the marriage you don't really have one.

I think she just wanted back in the house so she wasnt seen as abandoning it.
Be careful she does not accuse you of something.

Me-70, D37,S36