OK, the family part made me smile - THANK YOU. I'm 46 with 2 teenagers from a prior marriage...not planning a new family. I absolutely wouldn't have kids with him anyway.
He is like having another teenager (a 38 year old one) in the house; he wants a fun, non-disciplined job. He has a degree but it's not terribly useful (Aviation Management). He was a pilot years ago but was downsized. I don't really see him as lazy; I'm not sure what the deal is here.
He has a sister (36) who just now is being weaned off mom, so I think a lot of it comes from the family life. His dad was an alcholic who abandoned the family when my H was around 9; his dad was out of his life until he was around 19. He worships his dad. His mom remarried after the kids were older. She dated the guy for years, and my H did once catch them fooling around on the sofa. I don't think he was abused though.
