I wish I could tell her exactly what I think about her unhappiness. This wouldn't go well.
I would say: I wasn't too happy every time I had to drag you out of bars and parties because you too drunk and making an ass of yourself. I wasn't too happy when you took your brother and sister's advise over mine for our entire relationship. I wasn't fun for me to make excuses for you every time my parent were worried that you drink too much. It wasn't fun for me to go out at buy pot for you when I had to stay clean for work.
I could go on. Her life has been easy compared to what ive had to do to keep this family financially afloat.
M:39 W:40 S:10 S:7 D:12 BD:3/5/15 Separate BR:3/5/15 W moved out with kids 1/3/16