I'm having overwhelming anxiety and feelings of desperation. Suddenly crazed that my friendly approach is giving him the wrong impression - That's it's all just ok to keep up his plan with OW and he'll have no consequences.
Im not sure how exactly you are acting. But, in my opinion, the impression you want to give is "I will be OK without you".
Originally Posted By: Lost08
Desperate to hang on to him. I don't want this to come thru to H. I don't want to be clingy. I don't want to come across as vindictive and giving ultimatums before he leaves.
Good!
Originally Posted By: Lost08
I don't want these feelings. I need a box for them. This has to be my box.
Just acknowledge them, and accept that they are feelings. And that they are temporary.
Originally Posted By: Lost08
Every fiber in me wants to do that right now. Cling and beg him to want this to stay in this M and tell him not to go to OW, not to leave. I'm fighting it. Trying to put it on here before I have to see him later.
Yep. I know. You CAN. But it wont do anything. Except get you hurt.
Originally Posted By: Lost08
I have an IC appt. tomorrow while my D14 is in gymnastics. The IC isn't really up on DB'ing and sometimes questions why I don't have conversations with H about our relationship, but I'm trying to stick to a course closer to DB'ing. I'm hoping it will help to see her before Sat.
See if you can focus on you during IC. What are your goals for the next few months while H is gone? How can you build Lost08 into Lost09, the woman he would be a fool to leave?
