Why am I spinning today? Why am I feeling so desperate? Why am I feeling as if he just dropped the bomb today?

Is it because I need more self-control?

M 43 H 48
M 19y T 20y
D 14
S 12
H returned home from out of country 8/8/15
BD 8/11/15
EA Began end of June/beginning of July 2015; ongoing
PA H denies
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