Compared to what some posters here are going through with active A's, I'm not so bad off... but it's still depressing.
The separate bedrooms started a few years back, because H has to get up so early in the morning for work and I wasn't able to go back to sleep. Also, the bed we had made my back hurt to where I could hardly function, and H doesn't like my bed. I have suggested adjustments, but he's not interested in doing anything, it seems.
At first it was just on work nights, but then he started sleeping in there on weekends, too - and then I found out about the EA. OW contacted him in 2010, but it didn't get more intense until a couple of years ago, from what he says, when she suffered a personal loss and turned to H for comfort.
I think sleeping apart has been very detrimental for our M.
M 16 yrs, WH62, P54 3 adult blended kids EA 11/13, BD1 6/14 PA fall 14, BD2 2/15 Piecing 2015, BD3 12/15 Separated 4/16 WH moved OW in 5/16 Divorced 6/15/17