Still Struggling with a plan!

[hopeOK]

Things are still going well. H seems super enthusiastic towards me when we interact (all smiles, great moods, physical contact, etc). While I might question what is going on to produce this change I will not let that over run my enjoyment of it.

I think one thing that always crops up (even before the affair) is the amount of time h spends at work. He has always been a hard worker & I'm sure he is one of the only ones putting in over 40 hrs a week. He works about 10 hours a day & says he works more than 8 b/c he likes the comp time so he can use that instead of vacation (his vacation balance is close to 200 hrs right now b/c he rarely uses it for time he takes off). Any time this topic comes up it puts him in a bad mood so mostly I avoid discussions related to his work hours but I do feel neglected for his work.

And post affair, the feelings are slightly worse... I question if he is really working all those hours or doing something else (like he did during the affair) and I feel less secure in our relationship as a whole when he is off working & I am with the kids all day.