Mutatio - Thank you so much for sharing the truth with me. You are right, this is not about me at all, and the feelings I have for my wife are to have her happiness in mind. I have told her that I am there for her as always and that she can count me to help her through this time. I make sure to ask how my MIL is doing and how she is feeling.
This not about DB'ing, this is about her as a person I love and care for having the support she needs at such a difficult time. I am here at the capacity that I can be there for her, as a friend if that is what she needs at the moment.
M: 34 W: 33 S: 7 S: 14 months BD: 6/2015 Separation: 6/2015 Back and Forth between Home and Moms
Yesterday had a great time with my brothers, fun times. A little sad this morning as my wife took the boys Apple picking, she shared the videos and pictures with me and the boys were having so much fun. I wish I could have been there laughing with my family. I am happy that they were all having such a great time, so its kinda bitter sweet. But again, such is life. With God's Will I might have the opportunity to be with my family in a new and improve M.
Drank a little more than I should have, so woke up a bit down, headed to the gym this morning, worked out, listened to Joel Osteen, prayed, read Co-dependent No More and meditated. Feeling better.
Today's PMA Included:
Quote of the day
“The truth is, unless you let go, unless you forgive yourself, unless you forgive the situation, unless you realize that the situation is over, you cannot move forward.” ― Steve Maraboli, Unapologetically You: Reflections on Life and the Human Experience
How you doing brother, sounds like youre on the right path, I have heard Co-Dependent no more on an audiable, I need to listen to it again. Joel osteen always pumps me up, I order his CDs often.
Great quote, easier said than done but it must be done to move forward.
Keep fighting the good fight man, you will come out ahead!
thank you brother. I am trying. It is an everyday process. I just read up on your sitch. I am sorry to hear that you are in so much pain, but go through it and you'll come out on top my brother.
It has been a pretty difficult day for me. I have been missing her a lot more today, have been having the same thoughts. No anxiety so thats a good thing. I have been feeling my feelings, letting the thoughts run their course, and just journaling on a legal pad to get them out of my head.
Life is something that is both beautiful and ugly, I guess we decide which lens we are going to look through, so I am choosing beautiful....too much ugliness and sorrow through the other lens.
M: 34 W: 33 S: 7 S: 14 months BD: 6/2015 Separation: 6/2015 Back and Forth between Home and Moms
Thank you Mutatio, I truly appreciate you coming by and checking up on me. I am trying brother, everyday is the same, miss my wife, wish I could be with her, wish I was hearing her tell me about her day.
I had the boys last night and will have them today, so that is always an amazing feeling, love spending as much time as possible with them.
MIL is still in the hospital, heard that she began speaking a little, results are not yet back, so we are still waiting. My wife seems to be doing ok at times, but roller coaster ride, not too dissimilar to ours. I call to make sure to see how she is feeling and doing.
With that said, here are two of today's PMA activities
Quote of the day:
“Don’t cry because it’s over, smile because it happened.” – Dr. Seuss
Good morning EMMess, everyday you sound better, just by your words and youre starting to use quotes, etc.
Yes keep spending time with the kids, show them love and fun memorable activities.
I was talking to my friend over the weekend and he said something that I will never forget, he said "don't be saddened that ur W left you for another man!"
"be saddened if your kids start liking the other man more than you!"
Big eye opener, we need to make MEMORABLE times with our children.
Keep it up Brother, you are doing GREAT! May GOD be with you today!
Thank you brother. I am in a better place than I was, but still miss my W and M. As of now my W isn't "moving on" but I am working on preparing myself for the day I get the news that she is pursuing something with someone else, which is bound to come, I know that day would be another blow and I will have to grieve a bit more, hopefully I would be detached enough not to feel it as hard.
What you just said is really a scary thought. I will keep that in mind as that would be devastating. One of my goals is to do more fun things with my boys, take them out more, spending memorable time together.
Like always I appreciate you being by my side supporting me throughout all of this, and please continue to post, I am here for you brother.
M: 34 W: 33 S: 7 S: 14 months BD: 6/2015 Separation: 6/2015 Back and Forth between Home and Moms
