Thanks so much for your replies, I was really shocked and hurt for my kids.
I find that I still get dragged down into thoughts of "how could XH do this?" every now and again.
One day soon, I will no longer be shocked or hurt. I feel like it will be soon - there's not anything left for him to punish us with. My dad has died - and he didn't even acknowledge the death of this man who was like a father to him. He has cut off both kids financially and emotionally, he has re-married (I think) without telling his kids; he has left the state to live far away (although may have returned without telling us).
We are nothing to him, and yet still I get shocked.
But as i said, nothing much left now that he can do to us.
Your replies have helped me get back to feeling OK about this strange family's reaction to their grandkids.
It is their thing to do with as they wish... and they will now have to play out the consequences. I don't mean this in a retaliatory way.... but what were they thinking? What did they imagine would happen in the future once they'd done this?
Whatever.....
I feel much more like just shrugging and getting on with things today. Back to a focus on us.
S16 has his first school 'prom' coming up next week, and we are trying to organise a suit for him.
S19's boyfriend has a reasonable car, and has offered to act as 'dad' to drive us to pick up S16's date for the before party.
Everything is coming together nicely!
Thanks again everyone for your kindness and support. I wouldn't be able to bounce back so easily without you all.
