Why would my W break into my phone and read my messages if she doesn't love me and wants me to move on?
Azzork gave an excellent answer. The only thing I will add is to tell you that she did not do this from a point of love, or lack of love. Love really is not her issue in why she snooped. I know, it must be terribly difficult to understand when it is your W doing this crazy stuff.
A WW may not feel the love for her H, but for the most part....she wants to be in control. Even if she tells him to move on, those are usually just words, trying to get him to back off and give her space. Truth is, most WW's tend to be manipulative. I won't say 100% are, but from the stories that come to the board, the majority seem to be. As Azzork said, she is looking for you to turn your foot the wrong way so that she can't point a finger and say that's why she had to end the M. Plus, some WW's are curious to know if the LBH is interested in dating, talking to any women, etc. Some want to see what he's telling others about the stitch.
Manipulation/control, gathering false evidence, being nosy/jealousy, etc., is usually the motivation behind a WW snooping. That's why we caution members to guard their DB computer history (or phone), whatever they use to post. That is how WW's have discovered things in other cases.......snooping into the history to see what LBH has been doing.
It's not that she cares about you. It is that she cares what you are doing, what you are saying...and to whom, and if you are GAL.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
