The first step is always the hardest!

[Sotto]

Hi 4, I'm pleased you are taking this step. An important boundary for you has been breached and you have reacted accordingly. I agree with others, it hasn't been easy for you, but you have been soaking up information like a sponge and have been willing to dig deep within yourself too. It is still early days on this front though, so continue that journey for yourself.

Now, within all this trauma, focus on finding a haven for you and your D. Somewhere that gets to be just yours. Where the mayhem of OW sitch is not part of your life. That is his chosen life - not yours. Enjoy making this place your home. I had little money when I moved and I enjoyed creating rooms from charity shop furniture that I upcycled, stuff that was donated and borrowed. My flat is a little haven now and people only make it into my life if they are benign, friendly and want the best for me. H is not one of that circle just now.

Have strength and take care my friend xx