Need Advice. From Elation to Sadness to Confusion

[sandi2]

I don't know that a LBH can understand why his WW does what she does. She's not logical, and she's probably not who/what you thought she was when you M her. She's really emotionally unstable and some H's would swear she's mentally unstable. She's not responsible or reliable. She's hot then cold, and goes up & down and round & round, making everyone dizzy. It's bad enough that some H's decide to file just to get out of the terrible pain she inflicts. That's not what I'd call a rational woman, would you?

This woman has already divorced two men, and saying she wants to divorce the third one. That tells me she makes decisions on a whim or in the spur of the moment. Then when it doesn't turn out to be what she thought, she's ready to dispose of it. Even for women who are usually solution minded, the WW appears to have none of those skills. So, I'm telling you to have high expectations of figuring her out anytime soon.

You can't use old methods that once might have succeeded in improving an otherwise okay relationship. This is not the same as just improving things. It's probably different from whatever you "feel" you should be doing to get your W to stay in the M.