A few rambling updates; it's now been 5 weeks since I;ve been on my own with the kids and I must say, it's been really nice. I've started doing all kinds of GAL things that I used to enjoy years ago: meditation classes, wine tasting, lots of movies and am planning a trip to India for 3 weeks over Xmas alone.... I can't wait. I really feel the need to be by myself now: I've never been alone in all my life and now realise how crazy that is. I've never had the chance to grow into myself and be the person I'm meant to be.
Another positive: my business has been going really well these past couple of weeks and H is certainly noticing. (He gets notified of all my bookings as he built the website for me). It' s great that this has happened since I left H. Being alone has really focussed me and instead of getting views/opinions/advice from him concerning all aspects of my business, I now just do it to my specifications and it;s working!!!
I don't see much of H when he comes over to see the kids 3 times a week. I leave him to it with the kids. I say hi and answer a couple of his questions (mostly about my business) and I'm always upbeat (it's amazing what a bit of seperation and headspace does!) then I go and watch a film, do more work or read in my bedroom. It 's nice how we both keep away from each other . I ask him to babysit for me so I can go out and do things, but I don't tell him where I:m going and he doesn't ask.
MIL has told me H hasn't told any of his siblings we've seperated yet. Not sure why this is. Does anyone know if this is normal in MLC?
joss x
Married Dec. 1997 EA discovered April 2011 H lived at home until August 10th 2015 Separated August 10th 2015 kids aged 8. 14 and 15 I think we're done.
