The best help in your situation would be to click on Sandi's username and begin reading her posts. She will give you the perspective of a wayward wife. It is very helpful information, and almost spot on for how most women in affairs behave.
Me:29 W:27 M: 4 years T: 5 years No children S: 7/7/15 EA: 7/7/15 BD/"I'm done": 7/15/15 MC: 7/7/15-8/21/15 (failed) PA: 8/29/15 W Files for D: 9/9/15 D will finalize in 60 days