To be a little more clear, her initial reason for leaving a year ago was because she says I am angry all the time. I have gotten angry at some of the things she has done and sometimes gotten angrier at her and the kids than I should have. Nobody is blameless in a marriage and I am no exception. Putting things in perspective, I now realize now that I got more upset at things that now I see as no big deal, but I have also been told that it wouldn't have mattered because she is never satisfied.
I have been told by one of the psychologists/MC who saw us, that they (PAs and Borderlines) don't know they are doing some of the things they are doing. That is really hard to understand when someone is standing in front of you making you doubt what you know is a fact and lying about things he/she doesn't need to lie about.
If I had understood these things before, I MIGHT have been able to take a different approach to how I handled things.
