Hi Achi, people often say on this forum - if there's a but, anything after the but negates what comes before it. Your W said 'I'm sorry BUT you did all these things etc.....'
Yes, maybe you did some stuff and perhaps you are owning and working on that. But she's not in a remorseful place just now IMHO....
T 13 M 7 Me 48 H 46 SS 15 BD 7.14 PA D final 5.16 (H filed)
We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus