So it dawned on me - Spouses who have affairs and leave don't go to counselors becuase they don't think anything is wrong! They don't feel the agony or misery that LBS do. They are high on the ride, regardless of the cost and loss of family.
LBS's are the one who go to counselors, therapists, group work, workingon ourselves and all of that. We do that to fill in and get over the grief.
WAW's don't feel the loss, they are one up! We are the one's that are one down.
