I'm sure stress is an issue, but she is drinking a lot more, and that couple hundred calories every day or two adds up quickly. It is striking how much older she just looks to me at times. I know that stress and depression can affect the way a person appears without it being a permanent change, but it also can accelerate aging.
I'm definitely doing better than W, although I suspect she believes otherwise, as she likely feels she has moved on and I'm still clinging to the M. Not entirely true, but as I said, my being kind, generous, and pleasant is just being me, but I'll bet she interprets it as still stuck on winning her back. Very sad in a way, and more reason why detachment and both of us maintaining boundaries & space is important.
Me: 50 W:43 S6, S3 M: 12 yrs. T: 17 M is bad & Not happy Bomb Mar '14 S 5 Feb '15 D Bomb 13 Apr '15 (but "no hurry") DB Coach May '15 Wants proceed on D Aug '15 Starting 1-on-1 negotiations Sept '15