Got home and she was standing there waiting to go out. Looking great as well. The neighbors were having people over she told me about. She asked if I wanted the number and said know me and the kids will just go. I said are you going or are you out for the whole night. She said I am going to dinner.
Even though I should t have, I said please stop saying that you a re going to dinner when you come home at 1 in the morning. I quickly said I don't care but just be honest. Slip up. I the told her have a great time when she was leaving.
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M 37 W 34
T 12 M 8 D 7 S 4
Need break 4/12/15 W no ring 7/7/15
Separate room 4/12/15 Separate living suggested 8/15 W moved out 11/1/15
Been reading your thread and it is hard to let go I am in the same position as you are I am trying to detach and let go
My W is not the lady that I married she has changed and does not have the feelings for me any longer....now the might be w temporary thing or it cold be permenant all I know is right now she does not care about my feelings. You said about your w getting dressed up to go out my w is doing exactly the same thing ....she knows I hate it when she goes out without me but this will not stop her she is not the person that I fell in love with
I read a post from sandi about truly letting go and that if the www senses you are still attached to her she will pull away, I have to let go what I have been trying over past few months has not got her any closer to me
Be strong my friend we will get through this
Take care
Ghost
Me:48 W 41 M:18 T:26 2 D 18 & 4 2 S 17 & 13 Bomb: 20/7/2015 in house separation D filed 06/17 Separate houses 10/17 D Final 29/12//17.
Ghost Thanks for stopping by. I have been keeping up with yours as well. I think we are a lot alike, our emotions are still in charge. I am trying to stop that. I am running out of time for the phase we are in. The next phase is fast approaching and I need to use it more wisely. I am trying to listen to sandi and others as well as my DB coach. Some of the advice is not exactly the same and some seems like it will only make minor small changes. Those are the ones that don't make sense. I am trying to just let go and trust God also.
M 37 W 34
T 12 M 8 D 7 S 4
Need break 4/12/15 W no ring 7/7/15
Separate room 4/12/15 Separate living suggested 8/15 W moved out 11/1/15
Catching everyone up on the weekend and then a question or two..
W cam home around 1 am friday night. The next day i got up and go the kids ready and took them off with me for the day . Went to a rugby game, helped my mom with some things etc..W called as we were on our way home later in the day to see where we were or what we were doing. Got home and made the decision that i need to get out of the house on my own. had a friend come pick me up and my S4 who is very attached to me had a melt down as i was trying to leave. he cried for 15-20 minutes after i left. This makes me very sad to think about happeneing when we split custody. Got up sunday and got ready for church, of course after missing me the night before S4 said he was coming even though i know he gets very tired of being there!. Satyed busy out of the house the rest of the day spoiling the kids a bit with a new toy and then some grocery shopping.
this morning I got up and got the kids up and ready for school as i always do while my W just gets herself ready. I really dont mind this, but i am curious if i need to make an excuse to have to leave for work earlier a few days to make her manage things. I really like the time with the kids though and i know they do also.
so here is the main question. this morning after D7 gets on school bus we are back at house getting ready to take S4 to preschool and W makes sure out of no where to let me know she has appointment Wednesday with the person helping with Separation agreement. I do not know why she contiunes wanting to speak to me about it. She has to know it hurts me to think about, and right after she tried to make small talk all morning about other things. My only response to her was OK. is she checking me or is it that she is so far gone and detached herself it makes no difference to her on my potential feelings?
I know i should not care, and i feel like i am doing a much better job and see what is ahead of us, but that doesnt mean it will not hurt. I noticed i am having a hard time keeping old memories from popping into my head. happy ones. which is almost funny because it seem only bad memories come into her head.
Well, I have a consultation with a L today. with her still seeming so happy to keep pushing forward I need to have someone looking out for me. I really do not want to handle this on my own.
I am still praying and have hope, it is getting easier slightly, very slightly.
M 37 W 34
T 12 M 8 D 7 S 4
Need break 4/12/15 W no ring 7/7/15
Separate room 4/12/15 Separate living suggested 8/15 W moved out 11/1/15
I know i should not care, and i feel like i am doing a much better job and see what is ahead of us, but that doesnt mean it will not hurt. I noticed i am having a hard time keeping old memories from popping into my head. happy ones. which is almost funny because it seem only bad memories come into her head.
Well, I have a consultation with a L today. with her still seeming so happy to keep pushing forward I need to have someone looking out for me. I really do not want to handle this on my own.
I am still praying and have hope, it is getting easier slightly, very slightly.
It's not the fact that you "shouldn't care". You do because you're a good person. Feeling hurt and pain is okay, and you, as a healthy person, should do that. She may not remember good memories until years down the road. Keeping the bad memories only allows her to justify what she is doing. You're doing well. Protect yourself. Stand strong brother.
Me:29 W:27 M: 4 years T: 5 years No children S: 7/7/15 EA: 7/7/15 BD/"I'm done": 7/15/15 MC: 7/7/15-8/21/15 (failed) PA: 8/29/15 W Files for D: 9/9/15 D will finalize in 60 days
