One the way to the game - W called and told me to go get snacks for the team. I said I was not going to be able to do that and she hung up on me. This is her week with the kids plus we are not responsible for the team snacks this week.
She asked me if I had a soccer ball for the kids. I said yes I have soccer ball for kids. When i arrived she asked where is the soccer ball? I said at home. She was mad because she thought I was bringing it. I said you asked if I had a ball and yes we have a ball. You did not ask me to bring the ball. Again, communication is at all time low. It is if she is speaking Chinese, I just can't understand what she is saying or asking anymore. We used to be able to finish each others sentances.
Saw W at both games. I didn't sit by her or initiate any conversation except hello. I found another mother that I eventually went and sat on her blanket and we had a nice long chat. It was nice to meet and talk with someone else.
At the second soccer game, she brough D6 who played. D6 was overdressed and I mentioned it to her and said she was going to get very hot. She played anyway and then had to stop because she got "too hot". I helped her change and wiped her down with a cool cloth. I gave W the extra clothes and didn't say anything. W put her chair down beside mine to watch the game. I had to move my chair so I could see the game better. Again I found another Mother to talk to which I did for the remainder of the game.
W reports that playdate for D6 the day before did not go well, kids were left in hot car by play date Dad, cops were called, pushing match ensued and just a bad scence. We agreed that she will never have a play date with this family or girl again. I was upset that W did not tell me about this for a full 24 hours after it happened.
The rest of the weekend was spent dinner with friend, evening with a friend, hosted scouts leadership meeting at house and washed clothes. It was a hard weekend for me - upset that I don't have kids but tried to keep myself busy and distracted.
Again, I cannot understand why she chose this life fo herself and our kids. I really really don't understand. I must remind myself to STOP THINKING ABOUT THE WHY as it doesn't matter. It is just this new reality is twice as hard as the old. TWICE AS HARD.
