Just caught up on your sitch a bit. Congrats on the job . I too just prior to BD landed a 'solid' job and thought . 'okay . this will not fix everything but it should help' Thing is . they are going through so much more and there seems to be a point no matter how much more improved we (The LBH) get .. it is viewed as reactionary (especially early on). with them thinking/saying g "Oh sure NOW he gets his act together, well it's too late I found happiness (or so they think). It takes a bit for these changes to take root . and even longer for them to become real . and yet more time required for the WAS to actually believe and trust these things truly happened.
I would strongly caution any actions to get back together, she is not done cooking. Sure you appear to be a H only a fool would leave (At the least working very hard in that direction right?), and she might even be able to see that through the fog . that being said you are pressing a bit .. re-read your last few posts .. you are pursuing, initiating R talks . she is on the fence and will continue limbo until she hits bottom but at the moment she knows you are still there . right where she put you so there is no reason for her to process things on her own.. Cake eating is right there if she chooses to do so.. My W dropped OM over half a dozen times . they waffle back and forth, cake eat and just cannot sort anything out .. again this is their crisis but when we the LBS are to close .. hanging on to tight .. it does nothing but keep us stuck from growing and becoming better. It's one thing to pave the path home smoothly . just be careful not to paint yourself in a corner as you do so.
