Z us mortals sometimes need to write a lot to get out what we want to say. Others like cadet can do it shorter. Speaking of cadet, maybe you should ask him to remove your real name from your post above (overcautios maybe but hey after matt). I too esp on your thread almost sign off as I would emails or texts with real name. I guess virtual incognito friendships can be real!
I hear you. I agree with you. I can live with either outcome but accept that the only one I can decide is to end it. That is not what I want so I pick myself up again and keep going. Eventually I may have to decide otherwise. But not today.
My GAL activities and goals listed above are all things I intend to do. With the exception of camping that is weather dependent and may clash with other stuff, I intend to do everything. But with no stress about it. If I can't I can't. I will review list regularly and renew goals. I hope to go deeper on working on me, so I have great intentions. For me this is really getting my life back....... not just getting busy.
Regarding my goals, this week I have: Tidied my desk.... one small pile of papers to file. I have looked up options for wedding. I have contacted some distant friends I went mountain biking after work with some guys from the area last night. Earlier in the summer I tried to get people to go with from time to time. 2Ell now I inadvertently have set up a group of guys who want to ride regularly, so that is cool Due to W new job I get to bring boys to school every morning. That is cool.. Wednesday we crossed three neighbours and although no date set have agreed to have a drink with each of them soon. One of them we don't really know, as relatively new to area. A few weeks back I got chatting to him, which surprised W as she barely gets a hello. Wednseday he stopped to chat and asked us to go for a drink someday. I have also contacted an old colleague from work and we will meet up later in the month. I have not snooped in two days (today is day 3). I will make an effort to keep that up but it is not an absolute goal yet. I have a multi sport raid this weekend. Am not as fit as I would like to be but should be good. I am looking into my tiredness, and medically I am OK so it is stess related according to doctor. I sleep better but don't wake up refreshed. Sleep could be better still, but will relook at that later in the month.
Plan to paint cabin this weekend too. I have not been super focused at work but am easing back into it. I have spent more time here than planned. I had stuff to get off my chest. Plus it felt good to reach out to others. I liked supporting and trying to help others. Something I may look into for a future GAL activity ESP if separate. And I spoke with IC
Not a bad start, even if I do say so myself. Let's see what kind of a life I can get........
Roiste - Thanks for posting in my thread. This all looks really good. Id advise you to line up your accomplishments with your goals to see where you are succeeding and where you still have gaps. That can give you some focus going forward into the next few weeks.
Ill spend some time at some point going back through your threads to really understand your situation. As far as I can tell, you are still together with no BD, but you are sensing some distance. You many read the thread from SpinningJenny - shes been doing a lot of work in setting goals on how to try to re-engage her H still living at home with no BD. While your goals are good and focused on you, I think you may want to consider how you interact with your W, and see if there may be some subtle changes you can make that may change her responses to you.
