Judy, you said that you must start detaching. I would like to share a thought with you that I read here.
The point was that detaching by itself is difficult. It was suggested that successful detaching is a product of GAL. The idea is that by keeping busy and being involved in activities the LBS detaches.
When I read this it made a lot of sense. In the beginning I was saying "just detach" like a mantra. It did not work well. Then I tried GAL detachment. I have had great success detaching by keeping busy. GAL is an important part of the detachment equation for me.
Just offering that insight to you.
For me, it was a LITTLE bit more than just the GAL.
What has really been the key for me is the realization that I can survive without my W. I was so SCARED of divorce and didn't really understand how I would be able to live without her. I thought I'd be sitting alone in a dark apartment five nights a week. But I've come to realize that I can find things to do, and that other people really enjoy being around me.
So the key for me is this mindset change - though the GAL activities have given me the confidence necessary to make that change.
