NLW - I am sorry to learn that your c were kept in the dark about the passing of their grandfather - its so sad for them to know that they have have no standing within your ex family.
You have given your c love and stability from the start and whilst they know they have 2 families, you are the one that they will look to in the future, they will value that more than anything.
Feel what you feel, its right, but then let it go and help them move forwards from this -
