New - Desperate & Confused, H won't end affair

[JulieH]

I know how you feel. I keep fantasizing that in a couple of weeks I will be able to come back and post a Hollywood ending. My DB coach tells me maintain faith and hope, but in reality I am very fearful that I am clinging to a hope that will financially be exploited by my WAH.

What's especially sad is when you read old posts describing amicable interactions between LBS and WAS and the focus on baby steps and hope and then when you catch up and read the current posts they describe some pretty volatile twists.

The best advise on the whole DBing theory really is to maintain dignity and stay away from the relationship talk and pursuing behaviors. I have also found it helpful to understand the psychology behind the WAS. There is a lot of very deep insight from many of the posters herethat you will not get from friends and family and possibly not even from marital counselors.