Hi Judy, I just read your thread. Your playing a tough hand of cards but I think it's to early to fold.
I am going to suggest to you what you already know. Your top priority must be JudyL. If your husband see's a real difference between how you act/are and how he perceives you, it may give him pause.
Your evolution cannot be faked. You must take the time and find the authentic Judy. You will evolve in to a more kind, more compassionate, wiser woman. You will be better from this experience.
If your husband comes around and changes his mind you two will have to create a new relationship which satisfy's both of you. If the marriage does not survive you will still be the new and improved JudyL.
So, each day we get up and try to make the day count and improve ourselves. There were some days I just tried to make it through the day. All these days build on each other and sooner or later you will have the foundation built for the new JudyL.
