Flailing

[JulieH]

I totally understand, GAL activities are not easy when you work and have children to take care of. Although no where near as difficult for me as I have my family here. Actually, based on your schedule it's really a question of how are you surviving, let alone Getting a life.
I know how difficult it is this early in your situation. When my husband left, I was in limbo waiting to see if he would reconcile. Luckily I was pushed by a great support system to seek legal advise, to register kids in new school, get all the logistics going and preparing to live like a single mom. (Admittedly still in limbo land waiting to see if husband wants Reconciliation before pursuing what I have been advised to do)
What keeps you on the island vs moving closer to a support system? Do the children have roots there? As a nurse, you are lucky to have flexibility to go anywhere.
Can you car pool? Can you afford to hire someone to help with babysitting or housework or house maintenance? Do you have any family or friends that could possibly come for a month during this very difficult transition time? Any church or support groups in your area that help single moms? I would not be afraid to ask for as much help as possible at least for now. Can you perhaps take some vacation or family leave to adjust to a very traumatic event? (I am also in health field and I actually like the distraction work gives me)
Also, please forgive yourself for losing temper with daughter. I suspect it happens more than any of us want to admit during these very stressful times. It's not fair. The WAS really wreaks havoc on the entire family unit! But I think your apology meant a lot to your daughter and was the right thing to do.