I haven't been posting for a while - I thought I was getting to a point where I'd moved on.

Just looking for a bit of perspective, i suppose... feel like I might be catastrophizing, but I'm upset for my kids (D19 & S16).

XH's father - their grandfather - died last week after months under palliative care with cancer and brain tumour. They were not told any details about his funeral.

I am finding it very hard to believe that people could be so cruel as to exclude grandchildren from such a family event.